Caring for Nines
“While Nines can be slow to get started, once they do they get on a roll and are very industrious and competent. . . Healthy Peacemaker types tune into people’s needs, listen with empathy, smooth out tensions in relationships, bring deep insight, see the good in everyone, work hard, champion the needs of others, minister God’s love and peace, and unite people to a common good” (Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith, p. 46).
Slow to start
Go with flow
These three factors may contribute to someone becoming a Nine:
- Family formation role: Lost Child or Peacemaker
- Root sin: Lethargy to avoid difficult things
- Defense mechanism: Emotional numbing to zone out
The Nine personality is expressed and related to largely through emotions like these:
Felt need: Act for harmony to get energy
Gut/body type: Seeking to feel in control
Core emotion: Anger that’s internalized and hidden
Stress emotion: Anxiety about conflict, problems, or the expectations of others
Underlying sadness: Not feeling seen and appreciated
Emotional alarm: Accommodating others to feel connected
How Nines Become Like Jesus
“The Prince of Peace (Isa. 9:6) is the perfect Nine we all need. . . Jesus teaches us how to be alert and activated in God’s presence” (Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith, p. 52).
“Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune [and] in step with each other” (Col. 3:15 MSG).
Christlike Virtue to Cultivate
Self-activation (inspired by the Holy Spirit)
Key Soul Care Practice
Receiving spiritual direction
Wing Type(s): Eight and/or One
Stress Type: Six
Growth Type: Three
* Learn more and dive deeper into your wings, growth, and stress types with our resource, "Your Enneagram Map: Guides for Each Type to grow Emotionally & Spiritually."