Caring for Ones
“Everything can be improved is the motto of Ones. Whatever they do, they want to redo it to make it better—even if it’s good and other people say so. It seems they can’t help but see and fix what’s wrong, unloving, unhealthy, unwise, messy, or out of place. They keep thinking or saying, ‘It would be better if . . .' or ‘That’s not right, it should be done this way . . .’” (Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith, p.58)
These three factors may contribute to someone becoming a One:
- Family formation role: Parentified Child
- Root sin: Resentment from over-functioning while others under-function
- Defense mechanism: Saying or doing what’s ideal when you feel the opposite
The One personality is expressed and related to largely through emotions like these:
Felt need: Act to do what’s right
Gut/body type: Seeking to feel in control
Core emotion: Anger that’s repressed
Stress emotion: Shame about not doing better
Underlying sadness: Not enjoying blessings
Emotional alarm: Personal obligation to fix a mess or overwork
How Ones Become Like Jesus
“By appreciating Jesus’ grace and compassion, Ones can be softened to be less critical and less ruled by a sense of personal obligation . . . [They grow in] unhurried serenity and joy as they serve the Lord” (Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith, p. 65).
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Cor. 12:9).
Christlike Virtue to Cultivate
Key Soul Care Practice
Abandoning outcomes to God
Wing Type(s): Nine and/or Two
Stress Type: Four
Growth Type: Seven
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