Caring for Twos
“Twos feel connected to people and valued when they’re needed by others and offering compassionate help for them. They’re so proficient at attending to what their loved ones want that it’s like they get them to hang on an ‘invisible leash'" (Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith, p. 97).
Give to receive
These three factors may contribute to someone becoming a Two:
- Family formation role: Enabler or Rescuer
- Root sin: Pride of relying on self
- Defense mechanism: Repressing own needs to care for others’ needs
The Two personality is expressed and related to largely through emotions like these:
Felt need: Feel wanted
Heart type: Looking to other people for feeling connected
Core emotion: Shame from being dismissed or not respected
Stress emotion: Anger when their help or care is not appreciated
Underlying sadness: Losing self by caring for others
Emotional alarm: Pleasing people to the neglect of personal needs
How Twos Become Like Jesus
“Jesus of Nazareth’s life gives great honor to Twos. . . At the same time, Jesus shows . . . [us who are] helpers how to care for our own souls so that our joyful lovingkindness does not falter (Luke 5:16; 6:1; 8:2-3)” (Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith, p. 104 ).
“Nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Rom. 8:39 NLT).
Christlike Virtue to Cultivate
Key Soul Care Practice
Wing Type(s): One and/or Three
Stress Type: Eight
Growth Type: Four
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